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Just Because It Happened A Long Time Ago, Doesn’t Mean It’s Over …
September 11, 2025, 6:15 am
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Today is September 11, and while there are many young people out there who may not appreciate – or understand – its significance, it’s a date for many that will live on in history.

That’s not being disrespectful, I literally heard of a story where a young adult – in the US no less – who had no idea of its significance. Thinking, I kid you not, it referred to an overseas version of Seven-11, the convenience store group.

While it would be easy to judge them, they were not even born when it happened – even though I wasn’t born when man landed on the moon but I certainly know it happened.

Or did it? Haha.

[As an aside, I once had to do a talk to a lot of oil execs in Texas and one of my references was about the moon landing. After talking about it, I leant into the mic and said – jokingly – “that is if they did happen”. I wasn’t just met with silence, but also the look of 500 people staring back at me looking like they wanted to kill me. Oops]

But back to today, back in 2001.

Well, for me, it’s certainly a day I will never forget.

I was living in Australia at the time and just stared at the TV in despair as the horror unfolded.

But for some people in my life, what happened that day was even much more personal and destructive.

One was a wonderful client of mine who lost their sister in the tragedy.

The others were Andy and Dave … my ex-cynic colleagues and ‘friends’ of this blog..

We don’t talk much about what they went – and still are – going through anymore, but I know it tested them in ways few people will, thankfully, never have to experience. However while they have somehow been able to deal with the pain and pick up the pieces to somehow keep moving forwards, I know today will thrust an assortment of memories and questions on them – memories and questions from before that day and memories and questions from that day – so I just want them to know I’m thinking of them, sending them hugs, letting them know I’m so glad they’re in my life.

Even with the insults.

Love you gentlemen and see you soon.

And love to all the families who were – and continue to be – affected on this day.

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The Career Is Dead. Long Live The Career …

We live in a time where the idea of ‘having a career’ is becoming more and more resigned to history.

Not purely because of technology, but also corporate culture.

Where everything is for sale in the quest for profits and bonuses.

Values.
Reputation.
Distinction.
Differentiation.

Companies will kill any baby and sacred cow in a bid to look like they have a plan – even if that plan is becoming more and more short-term, next-quarter focused.

Meanwhile, they still splutter out the platitudes of ‘our people are our best asset’ while continually reducing roles, outsourcing training, lowering salaries and demanding complicity from whoever is left.

It’s the classic story of ‘biting your nose to spite your face’ and what is tragic is we all end up losing.

Employees.
Shareholders.
Clients.
Customers.
Society as a whole.

Hell, at some point we may all be living in a world of parity products that no one can afford because no one has an income that lets them buy anything.

Worse, it feels people at the top of many of these companies know this and so their whole approach to life is ‘make as much as I can then get out before it all falls down’.

Am I being bleak as fuck? Yep.

Do I really think it will end up this way? Quite possibly.

Not soon, but eventually … hell even Elon Musk has accepted a future where society needs ‘universal credit’ to survive and you can be sure-as-fuck his version of that is giving people just enough to stay afloat rather than challenge or thrive.

Which is why the concept of a career is potentially going to be consigned to the dustbin … or at least what a career used to be.

Because rather than meaning you have worked in one industry for your entire life – slowly working your way up the hierarchy – soon, it will evolve to being about using your skills across different industries and companies … finding the optimum moment to jump to gain the maximum value from your skills. I mean, it’s already happening that way but soon it will probably be the only way.

And while this will be the new definition of ‘career’, there will be one thing that remains the same and it’s this:

You won’t be able to say you’ve had a career, if you’ve not had to deal with loss and disappointment.

Loss and disappointment are rarely talked about in terms of career.

There’s this unspoken narrative that your evolution is always a perfect, singular, straight rising line. No detours. No backward steps. No mistakes or leaps. No bad choices and no changing of minds.

And frankly, that is utter bullshit.

Maybe 50 years ago this was the case, but even then I doubt it..

Not just because humans don’t aspire to ‘evolve’ at a constant, universal rate.
Not just because companies don’t elevate their people at a constant, universal rate.
Not just because there are people – and leaders in companies – who are fucking assholes, who actively mess with plans, promises and aspirations.
But because of all those reasons.

Having a career is as much about resilience as it is about talent.

Hopefully you can do it without having to endure too much of the bullshit that so many people have shared on the Corporate Gaslighting site … but we will all face disappointment and loss.

And while we all have the right to feel sad, upset, bitter about it when we experience it, the reality is what you do next ultimately defines who you are.

I’ve personally had a pretty great career.

I’ve generally worked for and with some amazing companies, colleagues and clients.

But not all.

There have been mistakes … little ones, temporary ones, one or two missteps and a couple of great big, fat, bastard ones.

And while I acknowledge some were absolutely of my own making, some were definitely due to people and/or companies actively – and in one case, willingly – wanting to systematically undermine my confidence and ability to do my job.

And while it fucked me up for a while – which I wrote about here – I was able to get through it and past it, ensuring that while my trajectory may have had some bumps, every step still had some big wins.

Which to me is what a career really is about.

Not title, but growth.

I know others may have a different point of view but mine was forged years ago by something a friend said.

Once upon a time, I was talking to a mate about a leader we both knew. We were talking about the work they’d done – specifically one campaign – when my friend said:

“That was 9 years ago, what’s he done since?”

Now while he was being overly dismissive, he did have a point – because the work this leader was universally known for, was something they’d done in the past, not the present.

Sure it was amazing work. Sure it was still talked about. But the reality is they hadn’t done anything in the intervening years that came close to making that sort of impact … and it was at that point I realized what a real career was.

Always building your portfolio of work, rather than just resting on one thing you’ve done.

And that has been both how I define ‘success’ as well as what has driven my choices and actions ever since.

Whether I have achieved this is up to others to decide, but I’d say I’ve got a good case for saying I’m doing OK … especially because I’ve worked bloody hard to try and make it happen.

Sure it has manifested in a lot of different ways – from books to ads to new products to stage set design.
Sure it has been with a lot of different people, companies and clients in a lot of different ways.
Sure it has been in a lot of different countries and cultures.
But I am pretty proud that wherever I’ve worked, I can point to something that was pretty special – either to the subculture, the country, the client, the agency, the department or the industry.

Again, I appreciate others are the ultimate judge of whether I’ve pulled it off … but for me, I’ve always wanted a career of highs rather than titles which is why I’m proud I’ve been able to do it in a way where I can look at myself in the mirror and feel I have stayed true to who I am and what I believe as well as be in the fortunate position that – despite my age – I’ve been able to continue to evolve and grow, as demonstrated by the fact that over the past few years I’ve been able to enter a new chapter of my creative career with the work I do for a small number of very high-profile artists.

If truth be told, that came about by luck rather than talent … but I didn’t take it for granted, I ran at it. Not because I wanted to be able to say I work for Rockstars, but because I wanted to be able to do stuff I never could have imagined I’d do.

Creative highs, not professional titles.

Or as my parents always drilled into me, fulfillment over contentment.

Yes, I appreciate I have a pretty senior position … but as much as I love the job and helping teams of talented individuals create their own creative highs … the thing I love most is that I continue to face loss and disappointment, because at the end of the day you only experience that if you’re still doing what you love.

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We’ll All Do Better When We Stop Thinking Humans Are Robots …

It’s been a while since I’ve had an all-out rant, but here we go.

So recently, I saw a quote recently I loved.

It was by Arnold Glasgow, the American businessman and satirist who said:

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have trying to change others”.

I say this because too many brands – and agencies – think they can.

Worse, they think they can with an ad … an ad that either tells people specifically what to do/what they should do and/or a list of product attributes that they believe will make someone immediately stop whatever it is they have been doing for decades and change tact because they’ve suddenly been ‘enlightened’.

Of course, this is not entirely the fault of agencies and clients.

Too often, it is backed up by some for-profit research group who has said their findings prove – without any possible doubt – this is what people will do and, even more importantly, want to do.

Now this is not an anti-research stance. Or an anti-agency or client diatribe.

The reality is we need some sort of foundation of information to make choices and decisions and research – when done well, like everything in life – is a universally established way to achieve that BUT … and it’s a big but … the definitive and delusional nature of how our industry talks borders on bonkers.

I get we don’t like risk.
I get what we do is bloody expensive.
I get there are big implications on getting things wrong.

But nothing – and I mean nothing – can be guaranteed and yet so much of the business acts like it can be, conveniently choosing to ignore the landfill of failings from organisations who have researched every part of everything they do for in every aspect of their life.

Sure, it can increase the odds of success … like advertising.
Sure, it is better than not doing anything at all … like advertising.
But everyone acting like whatever they are going to do is ‘a dead cert’ is an act of commercial complicity and co-dependency that borders on Comms Stockholm Syndrome.

A long time ago, when I was maybe a bit more of a menace, a media agency told a client – with me in the room – that they could guarantee they’d HIT their sales target if a particular amount was invested.

I asked, “but you don’t know what the idea is yet and surely that has a role in the level of impact and/or investment that needs to be made?” … to which they said their ‘proprietary data’ gave them the commercial insight that helped their clients achieve their goals.

So back at the office – pissed off – I sent them an email saying this was the work.

Obviously, it did not go down well, but then neither did their ‘strategy’ of just throwing money at the wall until they hit the magic number.

Again, I appreciate we all need information to base choices and decisions on, but we’re getting way too generalistic, simplistic and egotistic in our approaches and methodologies – which is why the sooner we remember how hard it is for us to change any part of who we are, the sooner we may start accepting it takes far more than a business goal … a focus group commentary … a marketing methodology or an ad to get people to even consider doing what you want them to do and so maybe – just maybe – it will encourage us all to start playing up to a new standards rather than down to complicit convenience.

But I wouldn’t hold your breath, which is why I finish this rant with a post that I saw recently I also loved – albeit with ‘paraphrased interpretation’.

Thankfully not everyone is like this.

As proven by the fact, they tend to be the ones behind the stuff we all wish we were behind.

Or as my friend said recently, ‘they’re the ones who play to create change, not communicate everything exactly the same’.

Oh, I feel better for that. Thank you for [not] reading, hahaha.

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Always Look Beyond The Spotlight …

This is a photo of Metallica’s road crew for their current 72 Seasons tour. I say that, but it doesn’t include the entire team who makes it happen … which totals around 500 people.

Five Hundred!

To allow 4 guys to play their songs to people around the World.

From stage riggers to wardrobe people to caterers to production crew to personal roadies to management to the 92 truck drivers.

Then there’s the people who are part of the tour but not on the tour …

From logistics people to fanclub project managers to lawyers to each and every one of the bands families.

It’s a lot.

Now the reality is the band are not just aware of this, but are deeply grateful and protective of everyone who is part of this … but the point of this post is not only does our industry love to place the spotlight on individuals – crediting them and them alone for whatever product, project or theory that is being celebrated – but too many of those individuals like to project the view that is entirely justified and as someone who has been in this industry longer than dinosaurs, the amount of times I’ve genuinely seen that, can be counted on one hand.

Don’t get me wrong, I have the ego of Bono.

And I appreciate everyone loves being told they’re good at what they do.

But there’s a difference between being celebrated and taking all the credit. And there’s a fuckload of people who – at least on social media – are happy to take all the credit.

Presenting themselves as some sort of comms Jesus.

Look, I’m not saying what they do isn’t good.

And I’m not saying what they do doesn’t have value.

However I am saying that in 99.9% of cases, they didn’t do it all on their own.

[Even though there’s more than a few you could possibly have that argument with, especially those who’ve never made work to back up their self-proclaimed genius or judgement]

Sure, maybe some of the help they received was people simply creating the conditions for them to be able to do whatever it is they do … but by the same token, ‘creating the conditions’ is exactly what those 200 people in the photo above do, and the band are very grateful they for that because otherwise no one would get to experience what is possible. Including James, Kirk, Lars and Robert.

My reason for writing this is because, as I said a few months back, too many people entering this industry are being subjected to a perspective that is inadvertently robbing them of what they could achieve if they didn’t fall into the ‘thought-leadership shortcut trap’.

That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t express their opinions and ideas.

That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be ambitious in their aspirations and goals.

But it does mean they shouldn’t think working with others is a sign of failure … because not only is that a recipe for disaster, it’s also why the industry is becoming less and less of a community and more and more an ego battlefield.

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Also, today is the 1st anniversary of our dear Rosie passing.

On one hand it feels longer than that, on the other only it feels just a few weeks.

Despite being small, she’ll always have a big place in my heart and life and I’ll be thinking of her and ‘her ways’ even more today.

Miss you Rosie.

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Sometimes The Best Way To Deal With An Issue Is To Be Embrace It Tenderly And Lovingly …

Over the years, my wife has told me all she wants me to do is listen to her when she faces challenges, rather than try and fix them for her.

I suspect she is not the only woman who has had this conversation with a man.

And while she knows the reason we do it is out of love, she finds it annoying-as-fuck.

Fortunately we’ve been together so long that its finally got in my thick skull, hence I now listen rather than automatically run to ‘fix’ mode.

The point of this is that I think a lot of advertising needs to adopt this trait.

Too often we think we can solve everything.

Marketing.
Politics.
Poverty.
World hunger.

You name it, our ego believes it can solve it.

But there’s something quite magical in embracing problems rather than trying to solve – or go around them.

Sure, we’re paid to help clients move forward … but that doesn’t always have to be from tackling issues head-on … sometimes, it comes from realizing some problems don’t – or can’t – be solved.

Recently I read something that embodies this perfectly.

A ‘solution’ that doesn’t fix the issue, but deals with it with dignity and grace.

It’s not unique, I’ve seen things like this before and have written about some in the past … but where they tended to be addressing issues in a private environment – such as care homes and parks in the Netherlands – this is something where the public are actively encouraged to be part of the solution.

Except it’s more than that.

Because they benefit as well.

In connection. In understanding and – at a time where there seems to be less of it about – in humanity.

It’s not just magical and beautiful, it’s important. For everyone.


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