The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]


Life Without Going Down The Rabbit Holes Is No Life At All …

A while back I was walking past a bus-stop near the office and saw this:

I don’t know why but I found it a bit sad.

The dismissal of a staple piece of 70’s life … even though the fact it was carefully placed on the nondescript bin, suggested the last owner hoped someone would pick it up to use in their home, because otherwise why not just break it in two so it could fit inside the bin?

But of course these days we have technology to play these games with.

Hell, I remember when the first ‘computer chess sets’ came out and it seemed like we were jumping a 1000 years in the future.

Playing chess against a computer?! What the actual fuck.

But for all the online games … for all the AI friendships and advice … games with people in the same room hits differently.

It may be able to be replicated by tech, but it never quite has the same finesse.

It’s why I still love the quote of Nora Ephron who – when describing things she’ll miss when she dies – said:

“Dinner with friends in a city none of you live in”.

From the first time I heard that, it captured my imagination and emotion … and having been lucky enough to experience that many times over the years, she’s right. Which is why as much as I love tech – and boy, do I fucking love it – it’s always ends up being a slightly lesser experience than playing with humans … because while the end goal may be the same, it’s the beautiful and unexpected shit that goes on in the interactions between start and finish that makes it a moment, rather than simply a fast-track to the end.

The problem with the tech bros is they’ve convinced us life is about optimization when really it’s about rabbit holes.

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Adulthood In A Picture …
August 25, 2025, 6:15 am
Filed under: Attitude & Aptitude, Comment, Life, Relevance, Revenge, Work

Got to admit, this hit me hard.

On the positive, I guess I can now officially call myself an adult. Kinda.

Good job there’s some good bits in getting ‘older’ or why would anyone want to do it.

Then again, with AI … we might even have that taken away from us.

Hell, it makes ‘being busy’ seem an act of rebellion doesn’t it … putting aside the fact that is about as sad, toxic and limp-shit rebellious as you can get.

So with that, it just leaves me with one thing to say:

Happy Monday. Ahem. Hahahaha!

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Alternative Therapy May Not Be Professional, But It Can Save Your Life …

Once upon a time, Elton John once sang, Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word.

What he forgot to add to that sentence was … “if you’re a toxic bastard”.

OK, there are some exceptions … but even when you’re sure you’ve done nothing wrong, if you see a colleague hurting from something you said or did, common decency suggests you’d reach out to them, because no one willingly wants a colleague to feel bad because of a misunderstanding. Or even a debate.

And yet there’s lots of people who seemingly do.

Just one look on my Corporate Gaslighting site tells you that.

Reveling in making others feel bad.

Or small.

Or useless.

Or a failure.

For many, this horrible experience can take years to get over and often, it never really leaves – it just sits there, waiting to be triggered by something at some point in the future.

It’s why it’s important to get help.

You’re made to feel it’s all been your fault. You’re made to feel shame to talk about it. You’re made to feel embarrassed to ask for help.

But – as I have said many times – this is all part of their approach.

The systematic undermining of your confidence to force your complicity and silence.

It’s abuse, pure and simple.

However it can get better. You can get stronger. You can look and move forward … which is why I want to leave you with 3 points to this pre-weekend post.

1. Remember you are not alone. They just want to make you feel that way.

2. If you’re going through this, reach out to me/us at Corporate Gaslighting.

3. Should you ever come across the person who deliberately caused you pain, discomfort and despair … one of the best things you can do for your healing is the following ….

Sure it may not be nice.

I understand it may not be professional.

But not only did they start it, it allows you to finally end it.

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We’ll All Do Better When We Stop Thinking Humans Are Robots …

It’s been a while since I’ve had an all-out rant, but here we go.

So recently, I saw a quote recently I loved.

It was by Arnold Glasgow, the American businessman and satirist who said:

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have trying to change others”.

I say this because too many brands – and agencies – think they can.

Worse, they think they can with an ad … an ad that either tells people specifically what to do/what they should do and/or a list of product attributes that they believe will make someone immediately stop whatever it is they have been doing for decades and change tact because they’ve suddenly been ‘enlightened’.

Of course, this is not entirely the fault of agencies and clients.

Too often, it is backed up by some for-profit research group who has said their findings prove – without any possible doubt – this is what people will do and, even more importantly, want to do.

Now this is not an anti-research stance. Or an anti-agency or client diatribe.

The reality is we need some sort of foundation of information to make choices and decisions and research – when done well, like everything in life – is a universally established way to achieve that BUT … and it’s a big but … the definitive and delusional nature of how our industry talks borders on bonkers.

I get we don’t like risk.
I get what we do is bloody expensive.
I get there are big implications on getting things wrong.

But nothing – and I mean nothing – can be guaranteed and yet so much of the business acts like it can be, conveniently choosing to ignore the landfill of failings from organisations who have researched every part of everything they do for in every aspect of their life.

Sure, it can increase the odds of success … like advertising.
Sure, it is better than not doing anything at all … like advertising.
But everyone acting like whatever they are going to do is ‘a dead cert’ is an act of commercial complicity and co-dependency that borders on Comms Stockholm Syndrome.

A long time ago, when I was maybe a bit more of a menace, a media agency told a client – with me in the room – that they could guarantee they’d HIT their sales target if a particular amount was invested.

I asked, “but you don’t know what the idea is yet and surely that has a role in the level of impact and/or investment that needs to be made?” … to which they said their ‘proprietary data’ gave them the commercial insight that helped their clients achieve their goals.

So back at the office – pissed off – I sent them an email saying this was the work.

Obviously, it did not go down well, but then neither did their ‘strategy’ of just throwing money at the wall until they hit the magic number.

Again, I appreciate we all need information to base choices and decisions on, but we’re getting way too generalistic, simplistic and egotistic in our approaches and methodologies – which is why the sooner we remember how hard it is for us to change any part of who we are, the sooner we may start accepting it takes far more than a business goal … a focus group commentary … a marketing methodology or an ad to get people to even consider doing what you want them to do and so maybe – just maybe – it will encourage us all to start playing up to a new standards rather than down to complicit convenience.

But I wouldn’t hold your breath, which is why I finish this rant with a post that I saw recently I also loved – albeit with ‘paraphrased interpretation’.

Thankfully not everyone is like this.

As proven by the fact, they tend to be the ones behind the stuff we all wish we were behind.

Or as my friend said recently, ‘they’re the ones who play to create change, not communicate everything exactly the same’.

Oh, I feel better for that. Thank you for [not] reading, hahaha.

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If You Want To Be A God, Then You Need To Perform Some Miracles, Not Declarations …

There’s a lot talked about the ‘ad community’ but so much is lip-service.

Not all of course … but a lot.

Acts or statements designed to look like generosity while really being done to elevate an individual/organisations position, standing or commercial success from likeminded audiences.

But then, as much as I love the industry, I also hate so much of what we do.

Robbing the meaning of words to upsell what we do.

Like ‘brave’.
Or ‘revolutionary’.
Or – as I said – ‘community’.

It’s why this story of Metallica serves as a reminder of what community really means.

Looking broad, not narrow.
Allowing privilege to open doors, not close them.
Going out your way for those who share the same values as you, even if not the same tastes.

[Albeit, EDM is the metal of dance music]

It wasn’t easy, but that’s kind of the point of what community is … a commitment to the inconvenient so that others can succeed.

That’s quite different to getting pissed with each other at the Gutter Bar.

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