The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]

What he forgot to add to that sentence was … “if you’re a toxic bastard”.

OK, there are some exceptions … but even when you’re sure you’ve done nothing wrong, if you see a colleague hurting from something you said or did, common decency suggests you’d reach out to them, because no one willingly wants a colleague to feel bad because of a misunderstanding. Or even a debate.

And yet there’s lots of people who seemingly do.

Just one look on my Corporate Gaslighting site tells you that.

Reveling in making others feel bad.

Or small.

Or useless.

Or a failure.

For many, this horrible experience can take years to get over and often, it never really leaves – it just sits there, waiting to be triggered by something at some point in the future.

It’s why it’s important to get help.

You’re made to feel it’s all been your fault. You’re made to feel shame to talk about it. You’re made to feel embarrassed to ask for help.

But – as I have said many times – this is all part of their approach.

The systematic undermining of your confidence to force your complicity and silence.

It’s abuse, pure and simple.

However it can get better. You can get stronger. You can look and move forward … which is why I want to leave you with 3 points to this pre-weekend post.

1. Remember you are not alone. They just want to make you feel that way.

3. Should you ever come across the person who deliberately caused you pain, discomfort and despair … one of the best things you can do for your healing is the following ….

Sure it may not be nice.

I understand it may not be professional.