The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]


There’s A Difference Between ‘Lived Experience’ And Living In A Bubble Of Blinkeredness …

Once upon a time – when we lived in Singapore – our oven stopped working.

We called a repair person and when they arrived, they noticed our kitchen sink and said:

“You have hot and cold taps, you are rich”.

Now while we knew we our place on Club Street was nice … it wasn’t overly special. It was pretty old and offered the same facilities we’d always had and that our friends and colleagues also had.

But it was that comment that snapped us out of our blinkered bubble … because while having a hot and cold kitchen tap is normal for so many, it wasn’t there and we’d been too arrogant and ignorant to realise it.

What’s worse is it was obvious as fuck if we had been a bit more self-aware.

But I tell you what, we were after that.

That wake up call was the foundation of my love of spending more time with people than behind desks. Living in the jungle, rather than hanging out in the zoo. And while it is not fool proof or all encompassing, it’s a damn sight better than relying on data that either removes the ‘humanness’ from the information or actively categorizes millions of people’s hopes, dreams, fears and ambitions into convenient, corporately-friendly, bite-sized chunks.

It’s why I laugh when I hear certain people talk about ‘culture’ … because frankly, many don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about. Not just because they see – and dissect everything – through the lens of marketing, but because like I did in Singapore, they choose to think their bubble is everyone’s bu

It’s one of the reasons I love talking to fans of sports teams.

Let me tell you, nothing reinforces how much logic is personal rather than universal than a conversation with them.

And it’s both brilliant and important.

Because where certain individuals like to suggest fandom and loyalty is expressed through the semi-regular purchase of a particular product or the recognition of specific ‘brand assets’ … the reality is neither of those have much to do with how fandom or loyalty is truly embraced.

For those really into whatever they’re into, you discover their emotions, motivations, hopes and dreams are inherently linked to the work, actions, decisions and outcomes of whoever/whatever they believe in. Work, actions, decisions and outcomes that may not make sense to anyone else other than them.

And while some may question why you would bother caring about what they think if they’re outliers, as the old saying goes, ‘it’s better to mean everything to someone than try to be something for everyone’.

But it’s more than that.

Because those ‘outliers’ are beacons and magnets to the masses …

Helping them discover, develop and explore who they are and who they can become by opening new possibilities rather than reinforcing and reflecting what everyone knows and where everyone has already been.

It’s the approach that built NIKE … built Apple … built Liquid Death … built Metallica … built Gucci … built all the brands who have an authentic, energetic role and position in different subcultures. [Which. despite being the names most marketing departments point to in terms of aspiration, rarely get challenged because ultimately, most organisations are built to follow processes rather than potential]

And while I fully acknowledge you have to work hard to attain it, the basics aren’t difficult.

You just have to give a shit about what others are interested in and doing.

But sadly we live in a world of corporate convenience … where the economic benefits of process complexity, C-Suite complicity, and/or pundit popularity beats spending unfiltered time listening, learning and experimenting with the very people who create the subcultures around your category than you do yourselves.

Which is why the most important thing we can do for our work, clients and career is make sure we’re comfortable being uncomfortable, because the only thing that will keep us ahead of things like AI, is looking to the edges rather than aspiring for the comforts of the middle.

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Why You Don’t Get A Career By Simply Wanting It Or Expecting It, But It Should Never Be Just On You …

One of the things I’ve always believed is that the role of a boss is to ensure that when their people leave – and they always will – they are going to a job that they didn’t previously think was possible for them.

A role where it is as much about who they are as what they do.

A position based on what they’ve made not just what they’ve written.

An opportunity created because they want to hire them rather than there’s a hire needing to be filled.

OK, there is one other scenario that makes me happy and that’s when someone leaves for love, family or to explore a personal passion … however in terms of ‘direct’ career moves, I feel I’ve done my job for my team when they leave for what I call, ‘a bigger life’.

Has this always happened?

No. No it hasn’t … however I am extremely proud that in the main, it has.

I should point out here I am in no way trying to take credit for my old colleagues success. The reality is they did it all by themselves … my only role was to ensure I created the conditions, environment and standards that let their talent and ambitions be expressed, pushed and celebrated.

This last bit is important because while the industry sometimes feels it rewards popularity more than experience, a career is built on what you do, not what you say.

Or said another way: What you’re willing to put in, not just what you want to take out.

Let me be clear, I am not suggesting you have to work to the extreme in terms of hours or workload.

Apart from that being completely counter-productive to enabling you to be the best you can be, who – apart from Tom in Succession – wants a career based on ‘being able to take more shit than someone else’?

That doesn’t mean you don’t have to graft – you do – but as I’ve written in the past, graft is very different to working to the bone or engaging in that other evil beast, hustle culture.

So what do I mean by graft?

Well, there are many interpretations, but for me – this quote by Nottingham Forest’s Taiwo Awoniyi, kind of captures it best.

The significant part is this: “I think I can make you who you want to be as a player. But it is your decision to come?”

Your decision to come.

YOUR decision to come.

The acknowledgement that to move forward, you have to choose to do it.

No shortcuts. No handouts. No guarantees. Yet you still have to show up.

But what I also love about that line is the bit that comes before ‘your decision to come’.

Because in just 14 words, the coach has told Taiwo they:

1. Believe in his ability but won’t make false promises.
2. Are focused on Taiwo’s ambitions and aspiration are, not theirs.
3. Will commit their energy to the pursuit of helping Taiwo achieve his goal/s.

Shared responsibility.
Shared commitment.
Shared effort.

In essence, he removed all the pressure being just on the player by saying to them, that they’re in this journey, together.

What this means is Taiwo knows the focus is on where he wants to be, not just what someone wants him to do.

That his graft will not be in vain.

That there’s a productivity to all he puts in.

And that success won’t simply be measured by what his boss achieves, but what his boss helps him achieve.

But, to have all that, the expectation is he demonstrates it through his actions and behaviours each day.

It won’t be easy.

It definitely isn’t a given.

But if you choose to take this chance – not just theoretically, but with everything you’ve got – then they will commit to helping you get where you hope you can be.

And maybe even beyond that.

Sadly I don’t know if that same attitude is embraced by our industry much these days. Of course it’s there with some people, but it’s unlikely to be the norm.

And why do I say that?

Because we’re seeing less and less training in companies these days … and what there is, is often outsourced to a ‘for profit’ individual/company who often are only doing it for self-serving reasons. And what this is resulting in is less independent thought and/or good people leaving the industry.

This kills me, because I love this industry.

Sure, it can drive me nuts but at its best, it’s something truly special.

Special work.
Special people.
Special possibilities.

It has also given me a life that – in all honesty – I never imagined was possible, however I had some bosses through the years who were like Taiwo’s and for that I am eternally grateful to them. [Just so you know, I also had some utter pricks, but I’m even grateful to them because they showed me who I will never want to be]

This post has gone on for far too long which is why I’ll leave anyone who has got this far with a gift.

If you want to know if you’re working for a company that really cares about your growth or cares more about their own, ask your CFO this simple question:

“What percentage of the companies budget is dedicated to staff training”.

Trust me, their answer will tell you all you need to know.

You’re welcome.

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When Is A Song About Low Self-Esteem And Loneliness One Of The Most Beautiful Love Songs Ever Performed?

As you know, I love music.

I play it.
I make it.
I listen to it.
I used to make my living from it.
I work with people who play to millions while they do it.

Music is, in many ways, a version of oxygen to me.

However, while I like all manner of music … from heavy metal to opera … there are some bands I don’t really connect to. One of those is Radiohead.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate their talent and there are music/songs they’ve written that I feel are genuinely masterful. But do I think they are worth the reputation that so many people hold them to?

Hmmmmmn, probably not … which I appreciate is entirely subjective rather than anything approaching a considered point-of-view.

And yet, I recently saw someone perform one of their songs – the admittedly iconic, ‘Creep’ – that has had such an impact on me, that I literally burst into tears at a specific point of the song, every time I listen to it.

And I’ve listened to it a lot.

I should point out that while I have always liked that track, it’s less to do with the song and more to do with who performs it and how they perform it.

It’s this [with my tears starting at exactly 2 minutes 8 seconds ]

Oh my god, I’ve just listened to it again as I am writing this and the tears are streaming down my face.

Now I should point out I have form at crying to music.

My Mum used to tell me that when I was very young – like 6 months old – I would cry at classic music that she’d put on the record player. Not because I didn’t like it, but because I was overwhelmed by the emotion of it.

And here I am, aged 54, still doing it.

There are many reasons for it.

First it’s just fucking beautiful. Proper, proper beautiful.

It’s both so simple and yet so layered …

But it’s also how two totally different musical styles bend and blend into some sort of harmonious rapture.

Where different orchestrations seem to be going on their own paths and yet, at some point, come together.

Not mechanically, but with almost a slow motion to them … making the impact of it even more majestic.

But, if I am being honest, as amazing as that is, what really hits me is this is Son and Mum.

It makes me emotional just thinking about it.

Not just because it makes me miss my Mum so much, but because both of them have come together to create something special for each other. And I do think it started that way.

The son believing his Mother’s voice was incredible. The mum wanting to support her son’s musical talent.

A genuine interest in what each other is interested in.

No judgement.
No criticism.
Just interest and openness while being able to stay utterly true to who they each are.

And by doing this, they’ve taken their separate world’s and created something together. Something special. Something that elevates their relationship because it has opened the door to new ways to share and express their love that maybe they previously never imagined.

But it’s even more than that.

Because running all the way through those 3 minutes, 25 seconds is a celebration of love.

Not just because they’re bonded by blood, but because you feel the deep sense of pride, respect and adoration of who each other is and what each other does.

It’s similar to when Pink Floyd guitarist, Dave Gilmour, turned up unannounced to a pub in Brighton to support – and sing – with his daughter Romany and yet it is also very different.

Because where Dave and Romany sang a song that was a relatively faithful rendition of the original [not to mention something you imagine they’d done together in private for years – which is said with love, not judgement] the version of ‘Creep’ is something else.

A mash-up of totally different musical styles.

A creation of something not heard before.

Something that not only takes the song to a completely new place, but demands all who listen to it open their eyes and ears to a musical style that they may of never heard before or most probably never considered would be something they’d like.

But how can you not like this.

How can you not be moved by it.

Because while the song is about low self esteem, loneliness, and the struggle to accept yourself, it inspires, radiates and ignites pure love.

The sort of love surely everyone hopes they will one day get to experience, create, share or remember.

And that is what my tears are for. And that is why I’m so grateful for them.

Remember to tell the people who matter to you, what they mean to you.

Have a good weekend.

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Give New A Chance To Surprise You …

One of the things I find hilarious about a lot of strategists, agencies and companies is how they talk about their openness towards innovation, but do all they can to maintain the status quo.

Oh, they’ll claim they give things a chance, it’s just their version of doing that is to immediately compare/judge any new approach against ways of working that have literally had decades to evolve and iron out any quirks … and so, generally, it is always going to end up being the unfairest of unfair fights.

However sometimes dismissal is not even about a lack of effectiveness.

Many times, it’s driven more by personal ego … where rejection occurs because a particular individual fears that any new methodology may result in them losing power and control and because of that, they’re openly hostile [and subjective] to anything being presented for consideration.

So what happens is the industry invents terminology that allows them to feel they’re being innovative but actually it’s all about conformity.

It’s why we hear the word ‘transformation’ banded about so much.

Oh when you hear that you think of acceleration … revolution … category redefinition … but what does it tend to really mean?

That’s right … it’s companies who have been left behind by years of ignorance/arrogance/complacently who finally realise they need to get their shit together so spend a fuckton of cash simply to be where everyone else has already been. The irony with this approach is that despite making such a big deal of their ‘transformation’, they still end up behind their competition because while they’ve been trying to play catch up, everyone else has been moving forward. Again.

But just as much as fearing innovation is harmful to your growth and potential, so is blindly accepting whatever new thing is available to you.

Far too often we’ve seen some companies embrace the new, shiny thing for the simple reason they want to be associated with the new, shiny thing.

Worse, they embrace it and then talk about it like it’s the finished article only to quietly move things aside when [1] they realise it may be shiny, but it’s not worthy or [2] there’s a newer, shinier thing that they need to be seen aligning themselves with.

Sadly adland is one of the worst at this. But so are the tech industries. And basically everyone on Linkedin, hahaha.

New is wonderful. It needs embracing, celebrating and championing. But most of all it needs patience and objectivity.

Patience for the idea to evolve, develop and see where it can go or goes.
Objectivity for you to be able to assess without bias, whether you’re dealing with hype or hope … allowing you the clarity to know if you have to protect it or kill it.

The last thing to remember is that sometimes, the thing an idea needs to work is ‘good timing’.

When I was younger, I never believed it when people [read: girlfriends, haha] said it was ‘bad timing’.

I thought it was just their way of getting out of seeing me.

And maybe it was … however as I got older, I’ve realized timing is a thing. Often an intangible, unexplainable, unmovable thing.

It may be driven by coincidence. It may be driven by circumstance. It may be driven by attitudinal shifts. But there are countless examples of ideas that were made or died because of timing, regardless of who was behind it, how much they spent on it or their history in doing it.

One of my favorite examples is the Toyota Prius.

The general view is Toyota launched the car in response to societies increased awareness of the car being a threat to the environment.

It may be true, after all the concept of the electric car had been around well before Toyota launched the Prius, albeit with continual failure.

[As an aside, there’s a documentary entitled ‘Who Killed The Electric Car’ that is well worth a watch]

However, I was told the development of the Prius had nothing to do with environmental concerns and was a byproduct of Toyota experimenting with their engineering capabilities. By pure chance, they developed a viable electric car at a time where society was changing/evolving … both in terms of environmental awareness but also economic situation. In essence, Prius was a happy accident of timing rather than forward planning.

As with most things, history has a million different authors … but given the Prius was so far ahead of other car manufacturers – and very different to Toyota’s traditional approach to car manufacturing – it feels there may be legitimacy as to how and why it succeeded and it had very little to do with being culturally aware.

Whatever the answer, the issue of ‘new’ is a complex one.

Too many people dismiss it.
Too many people fawn over it.

All I know is we should value it and respect it.

That doesn’t mean you can’t challenge or question, but in a world where everyone wants to give their hot take in the blink-of-an-eye, the smart people give ‘new’ the time to surprise and evolve as well as remember that on the occasions something doesn’t work out, they acknowledge it may not be the idea, but the times.

And times are always changing.

Just ask the horse. Or Ed Klein.

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Just Because You Have An Opinion Doesn’t Mean You Have A Choice …

Recently I read a comment on a post Zoe Scaman had written about democracy.

Her point was – with social media companies bending to Trump’s will – we were witnessing the crumbling of established and vital democratic systems. Most people were in violent agreement until someone wrote this comment:

“Can you elaborate on ‘democratic systems are crumbling’ please? My in-laws were born and raised in Russia, and they believe Venezuela is doing great and Cuba is heaven”.

It was not just a good point, but an important point one. Not said to insult or embarrass, but to simply remind us that context is everything and rarely is it experienced equally.

I say this because it reminded me of a similar situation I experienced a few years back… except, unlike Zoe, there was no legitimate reason not to have considered this from the beginning given I’d been living in China for a long time.

You see, back when Trump was running for his first Presidency, I was running The Kennedys at Wieden+Kennedy Shanghai.

Because the election was a hot topic, I set them the challenge of creating a campaign to tell voters Trump was a monster.

For a few days The Kennedys went about researching more about who Trump was until one day they asked if they could have a chat to me.

“We don’t get the assignment” they said with genuinely confused and harassed looks on their faces.

I must admit, my first impression to this was consternation, until they added:

“Maybe Trump is a bad person but America gets to vote who they want to run their country and that seems amazing”

Basically, they couldn’t understand the task because as bad as Trump may be, the brief was still about democracy and democracy is good. Especially when you don’t have it.

[As an aside, a young, brilliant Chinese planner once described the Government as ‘Rock n’ Roll’ and when I asked why, they replied, “you told me Rock n’ Roll is doing what you like and not caring what others think and there’s no better description of the Chinese Governments attitude and behaviour”]

Anyway, when they said that to me, I realized just how badly I had fucked up – not them.

That I’d made the cardinal sin of taking my context for granted. That I’d assumed everyone understood and appreciated the context and situation I was asking them to embrace and communicate.

And I was obviously wrong.

I’d made the most basic of fucking mistakes – albeit one practiced by most companies and marketing departments around the World.

And I hated myself for it ….

But as they say, it’s only a mistake if you don’t learn from it and I learned from it. Big time.

A lesson that I remind myself – or remind my colleagues/clients/researchers – literally everytime we talk about people, situations and contexts.

And while Zoe wasn’t as naïve as I was – because for her, it was more about how she phrased her point rather than being ignorant to the wider issue – she has also likely learned from it. A lesson that will make her even better than she already is – which is more than can be said about the people who voted for Trump again, even though I have far more understanding and even respect for why they did it rather than just assuming ignorance and racism.

Anyway, the reason for this post is that I recently saw a tweet that reflected how young Chinese people see Americans – in relation to the most recent election – and I found it fascinating. Because rather than viewing ‘democracy’ as freedom of choice, they now see it as something else … something that not only may be the best take on what modern democracy is, but also explains why all the social media companies have been so desperate to bend to the will of the new administration and why Trump [as much as I hate to admit this] probably understands how modern communication works more than most media and ad agencies.

Have a look at this and remember, what’s normal for you may be abnormal for everyone else.


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