The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]


Why The Heaviest Thing In The World To Carry Is The Belief Only You Hold A Flaw …

They say you get wiser when you’re older.

I’m not so sure of that.

You just get more efficient at doing the bits you know, over and over again.

The other stuff? Well that hides, waiting to make a grand entrance. To knock you off your feet or grapple you to the floor.

Sometimes you’re aware of what that thing is through the years spent trying to hide or run from it. But some can be a total surprise …triggered by an event or situation you didn’t even know was an event or situation. And then, seemingly without warning, you find yourself suddenly caught between the glaring headlights of others derision and judgement and the bright spotlight of your own despair and mortification.

We are all fucked up in our own little ways.

The failing is not in our inability to be perfect; it’s the energy we waste pretending we all are.

Someone I met recently admitted to me they were “fucked up” … and said it in a tone that suggested they truly feared the consequences of sharing their secret.

And while they didn’t go into detail regarding the burden they carry, I know some of its impact has been the complete rejection of things that made them feel good and alive. I know, it sounds counter-productive … it IS counter-productive … but when you face this level of pressure, the mind works in mysterious ways and you convince yourself you’re doing the right thing even though you are burning much of what could be good, down to the ground..

There are so many people who are in this situation.

Trying to pretend they’re OK while not dealing with the trauma they probably experienced at some point in their childhood and/or are experiencing right now in their adulthood. Often through – and because of – work.

The amount of young people I met in China recently who are literally exhausted is terrifying.

Sure there are a number of contextual elements that have contributed to it.

The first generation experiencing a slowed-down China economy.
The over-reliance on social media for both identity, community and belonging.
The lack of jobs but with the same high filial expectations.

They are all real reasons and the result is this generation of young, talented kids don’t know how to cope, mainly because they never were taught how to cope – both because they were brought up by parents who never had to deal with things like this as they were economically fortunate – either personally or because of the times – plus they weren’t exposed to technology that made the pressure to achieve even greater. Add to that a schooling system that is far more functionally orientated than emotional and you get this horrible, perfect storm.

Anyway, back to this person I met – who is not from China, but reflects the same mindset.

Since I met them, I’ve discovered just how deeply the impact of their situation has been on them and the people around them – and it has devastated me to be honest. They are a brilliant, talented individual who needs help but feels having that would invite failure into their life. Why? Because platforms like Linkedin tell them – thanks to all the bullshit ‘opinion leader’ pieces – careers and reputations are built on seamless, intellectual perfection, which is obviously bollocks but to young people out there, that is all they know.

Which is each and every one of us is complicit in the situations so many young professionals experience. Which is why if I could relive the moment I met then once again, I would reply with a much more articulate answer.

“We all are”.

I hope they read this post. I hope they reach out. Or I hope they let me reach them.

Look after our young … they’re going to run our future and if we want a good one, we need to give them good habits, good skills and a good understanding of emotion not just function.

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A Smile Is (Sometimes) Better Than An Award …

So this is another post about Augustine.

I know … I know … haven’t I done enough of those already?

I mean, seriously … wasn’t the over-long, over-sentimental love letter to her when she left Colenso, enough?

Or what about when I used the Cannes stage to promote her to the global ad community?

But apparently that fucker made such an impression on me I’m going to write another post about her.

Maybe it wouldn’t be so bad it it was about her buck-toothed, ‘Bugs Bunny mouth’ when she was a kid … but it’s not. What it is, is about this:

I stole that pic off Augustine’s insta.

It’s a screen grab she took when we caught up a few weeks ago.

And I have to say, I bloody love it.

Because despite the fact it highlights how my home office always looks green – despite there being absolutely no green in there whatsoever – her smile is brighter than the sun.

And this makes me happy.

Because it means she is happy. And doing well.

And she is. Both very happy and very well … which means, maybe – just maybe – she is starting to realise how good she is and, even more importantly, how good she can be.

Which makes me all kinds of happy …

Because I’ve seen far too many talented people never quite realise what they could be, because they didn’t want to run towards it, they wanted it to run right up to them. And as I wrote about the Nottingham Forest striker, Taiwo Awonyi, at some point you have to make the decision you want it and will go for it.

It’s why I was so adamant she had to do it.

It’s why we spent 2 years preparing her to do it.

It’s why we all were so supportive about her doing it.

Because while there’s no guarantee it will come off in the way you hope or dream … you can guarantee you have more of a shot of it happening, than not trying at all.

And Augustine is taking her shot.

Not watching from the sidelines, but on the court.

Playing. Competing. Challenging. And most of all, happy as she’s living, growing and learning.

Which is why – even though I had absolutely nothing to do with all she is achieving – the smile on her face makes me feel like we’ve both won.

I miss you Augustine. And I’m proud as fuck of you.

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Halloween On Steroids Isn’t As Scary As This …

Yes, I’m still away but it’s Halloween so I couldn’t miss a chance to pre-write something.

After all, it’s a day where ghosts and ghouls come into our homes to haunt us and yet can be scared away – or satisfied, no one has actually stayed around long enough to ask – by some sweets.

What a bunch of cowardly fucks.

Anyway, it’s Friday so if there’s any day that is perfect for Halloween – it’s today.

Around 2am.

When all the piss-heads fall out the pubs.

Covered in their vomit.

Or someone else’s.

But that isn’t scary enough for me – oh no.

Even the shot at the top of this post – which was a video we had playing and shining out one of the windows of Colenso towers last halloween – is far too tame.

No, I’m going to show you something truly petrifying. But before I do that, I have to take you on a bit of a story.

You see recently I was talking to someone about how blogging used to be.

A real community where people went out their way to help and support each other … not like the toxic fuckfest that is all social media platforms these days.

Anyway, one of the people who was prevalent in those wonderful early days was Marcus.

Marcus would nudge, push, and encourage masses of people to participate in his madcap ideas … of which one, back in 2007, was called, ‘iPod Singing’.

Basically, the premise was you had to record yourself singing along to a song you were listening to on headphones and look a bit of a prat so others could take the piss out of you.

Or said another way, ‘my area of expertise’.

Anyway, I was explaining this to my mate and showed him my iPod Singing extravaganza to which – after a moment of stunned silence – they said:

“That’s the scariest thing I’ve ever seen”

He wasn’t wrong. Which is why I repost it for your Halloween pleasure.

‘Pleasure’ maybe not being the right word.

Oh well … have a good weekend. I’ll be back ‘properly’ on Monday … which is – without doubt – the most terrifying thing that will happen this Halloween.

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Don’t Let Strategy Take The Excitement Out Of Possibility …

So I have good news.

This is the last post for a week.

Yep, I’m away. Again.

Not because of whatever happened with the result I wrote about yesterday – but something else. Though if the result wasn’t good yesterday, the week away for me is going to be very bitter sweet because something that should be full of crazy wonderfulness is going to be infected by sheer fucking panic. But let’s stay positive shall we and ignore the fact I started a company called cynic – hahaha.

[I also, let’s not forget, started a company called Sunshine, which proves I am the living embodiment of a ‘gemini’, haha]

Anyway, I say you have ‘a week’ rest from this blog but I have written a post for next Friday because it’s Halloween and I couldn’t resist posting something truly horrific.

A blast from the past that no one needs seeing again but still makes me laugh.

So apart from that, you’re free from me for one whole week.

What a way to see in the weekend …

So with that, I’m going to leave you with this …

I saw the above recently and it reminded me of a meeting I was in once, where an HR person talked about ‘cultural fit’.

Now I get what they meant – from a theoretical place – but it was what they were trying not to say that bugged me.

Because in essence, they were saying they valued the complicit and consistent over the interesting and challenging.

They didn’t care that people who questioned or pushed were actually doing it because they wanted to help the company be even better … to them, they saw them as ‘problems’ who they could discount or disregard under the guise of being a ‘wrong cultural fit’.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate good companies have strong cultures … a set of principals, values and behaviours that the people within shapes who they are and how they act. But too many organisations mistake this for control and complicity when in reality, it’s about expression, standards and possibility.

And it’s why I loved that piece But here’s the thing, these people make great shit a possibility.

Sure, I get they often need to be surrounded by those with the skills and abilities to both interpret what they say and action it … but without them, you are forever lost in the middle.

Yes I get for some that is exactly where they want to be … but for those with hunger, ambition, a desire for originality, craft and possibility, that’s literally the worst place you can find yourself positioned.

And yet too often, it’s these ‘big talking companies’ who have embraced protocols and processes that filter these people out immediately … replacing them with an endless stream of plastic and beige puppets. It’s why as much as these sorts of individuals can cause all manner of headaches and mayhem – and I say this both as someone who fits this description as well as someone who seeks out people of this description – they remain the individuals who I love to work with and hire the most.

And there’s a reason for that …

Because not only do you never know what they’ll come up with – and often they don’t know wither – you can be sure it will be smart and impossible to forget.

Or to be more poetic …

They are like comets flying across a night sky. They might not stay around for long, but boy … do they always shine bright.

Which leads to something else.

Recently London School of Economics [LSE] asked me to write a piece for their business management and strategy curriculum.

I don’t know if was because they thought my perspective would educate their students or serve as a warning of what NOT to do, but it was lovely to be asked.

The one thing they wanted me to specifically talk about was how I have been able to build and lead successful teams wherever I’ve worked.

And without blowing my own trumpet, I have.

Whether it’s been at different agencies or different countries, I’m proud I’ve been able to help nurture strategically intriguing, creatively interesting teams. Where every place I’ve been, has enjoyed a period that has come to define the department, the agency, the client, the category, the work we create or – most importantly – the people who are there.

The reason that’s so important to me is that where strategy is concerned, you can never be sure if you’re making a difference or you’re just riding on the coat-tails of the talent that was – and is – already there.

Or said another way, are you good or are you lucky?

And while I’m definitely lucky – both in terms of where I’ve worked and who I’ve got to work with – I do believe I’m pretty good at developing people and gangs – and I choose the word ‘gang’ very deliberate.

You see the word ‘gang’ means you have a motley crew of different people with different talents and outlooks who are united by a common philosophy, enemy and planning identity … whereas a department tends to be a production line of similar people, doing similar things with similar backgrounds and expectations.

Or as Lee Hill, my mentor and friend once said, “you can choose to partner with people who find interesting ways to open possibilities or people who are only focused on keeping things the same”.

And while there is nothing wrong with being boringly expected, it’s not what I value or what drives the greatest commercial growth … which is why – as part of the piece I was asked to write – I wrote this:

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It’s why I always say you should beware of those who offer convenient answers.

Or solutions that are more complicated than the actual problem.

Because you may find they end up costing you far more than the people who challenge or push you in terms of who you are pr who you want – or could – become.

See you properly a week on Monday – via something stupid on Friday.

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Sometimes You Just Have To Stick Around Even If You Outstay Your Welcome …

One of the most special times of my life – not just career – was working at Wieden+Kennedy.

Specifically Wieden+Kennedy Shanghai.

Of all the adventures and experiences I’ve had in my life, it stands out highest simply because I feel a deeper sense to China and its people than any other place I’ve ever lived.

It helped that I was there during a time where the World needed China more than China needed the World – so I found myself invited into meetings and situations that frankly, few people – let alone strategists – would ever get to experience.

Wieden were amazing to me personally and professionally but I paid them back in droves.

But that said, leaving was very difficult.

They wanted me to stay.
A big part of me wanted to stay.
But I’d been there for a lonnnnnng time, I’d done pretty much everything that could be done – including starting and running The Kennedys – plus I had a young boy who needed a different environment to grow up in.

So with very bitter sweet tears, I said goodbye to a magical place in a magical country. Except I said it in a way where they would forever remember me. Specifically as the pain-in-the-fucking-arse I’d been to every single person in that place for seven fucking years.

You see about 6 weeks prior to leaving, I had 600 of these stickers made.

I then proceeded to spend the next 5 weeks hiding them everywhere.

From the – then – refurbished Shanghai office to all the local W+K hangouts, like Baker & Spice, Jamaica Blue, Little Catch and, of course, Nike HQ.

It made some people furious. Specifically one person. Which made me especially happy because in terms of making a final decision whether to stay or go, they were the determining factor on why I left.

And over the years, people would send me a photo where they had come across one or two.

And despite it now being 8 years … there’s still some there.

In fact, there’s now more than just some.

You see a few weeks ago, I was in Shanghai and was invited to visit the office.

I had not been in the place since I left … but given I’d now been away longer than I was there, it felt OK to go in.

And it was lovely and familiar.

But then it was a place where I did a lot of growing up.

And made a lot of friends … friends who are with me for life.

Which is why it was extra special for me to see some familiar faces from my time there.

And because of this, I wanted to honour the place and give them something new to show my gratitude and love.

So I gave them this:

That’s right, I made a new sticker to accompany the old ones.

“But how many stickers?” I hear you cry.

Well I couldn’t possibly divulge that information because it would ruin the fun of finding all of them, but in the interests of friendship, here’s a clue:

Now I fully appreciate this act of ‘love vandalism’ may result in them never inviting me back, but I do hope they see it as my own special way of showing my deepest and sincerest respect to a place and country I truly love.

Because Wieden Shanghai and China wasn’t just a place I lived and worked …

It was where I was reborn.

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