The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]

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September 2, 2013, 6:10 am
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I am a walking contradiction.

I love new adventures but I’m hugely sentimental.

I look for ways to keep edging myself forward – at least emotionally – but fight like a bastard to maintain the things of my past that mean so much to me

It’s a constant challenge because things are in a state of constant change.

Sure, I can control – or at least delude myself I can control – what I have in my life, however the fact is I have no power whatsoever over the situations, opportunities and choices that the people I care about get exposed to … which means I have no control – just hope – for what my life will be in the next 24 hours.

And that’s when you learn life is based on one key question: What are you willing to commit to and what are you not.

So many of us walk around thinking the World revolves around us … that nothing will change unless we choose for it too … and all we are doing is setting ourselves up for disappointment.

More confronting is that even when you do fight for stability, it can only happen if the situation you’re hoping to maintain wants it to.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a person, a job, a band or an exhibition … the things we hold dear are always at the point of fracture, which is why making a commitment to the relationship, whatever that might be and whatever that might take, is everything.

Now you might question this.

You might say, “But Rob, don’t you know absence makes the heart grow fonder?”

And to you, I’d say it must be bloody wonderful to live on your planet because the truth is, without actively nurturing, absence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder, it makes the absence much easier.

To rub salt in the wounds, you only find this out when it’s too late.

When what was so important has gone.

And you might think you can get over it, but you can’t … you just get better with coping with the loss.

But you still feel it.

You still feel the sharp pain every time you remember … and it stings more, because you know you brought this on yourself the moment you thought nothing would change unless you wanted it too.

What am I going on about?

I suppose it’s simply to say that while it’s exciting to explore and experience the fresh, new, interesting and unique … we should never take the important things for granted – the things that lift your spirits and stir your soul – because life is always in beta and to move truly ahead, the key is to commit to your present and don’t turn your back on your past.

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More contradictions. You work on nike but support notts forest. You play the guitar but you like queen. You fly business class but prefer economy food. You are a planner but talk shit. Shall I go on?

Comment by DH

nicely assassinated davey boy. good fucking work.

Comment by andy@cynic

That’s still not as good an example as you lot saying you are smart but coming to this blog.

Comment by Rob

I don’t know what the post is about and I don’t know how that film links to it but it’s fucking brilliant.

Comment by DH

The video, not the post.

Comment by DH

you didnt have to explain that, were not fucking stupid. or blind.

Comment by andy@cynic

You know your cat can’t read Rob. It’s not going to understand a single word you’ve written here. It’s not the only one.

I can’t understand the video either but I know that’s awesome. Don’t feel it about your post though.

Comment by Billy Whizz

The video is very strange and I have to admit I cannot see what it has to do with the post but it’s amusing.

I like the post. I think many people will relate to it even if they wish they couldn’t. Similar to your post on Friday, the delusion we are in control of what happens runs deep, but we fail to realise until it affects us one day, that it only works because what we want/expect to happen matches what other people are doing. If it didn’t, it would all come crashing down.

Looked at this way, you realize life is about making constant mini contracts and negotiations and those who choose not to are either very wealthy, criminals or set for a life of disappointment.

Comment by Pete

Once a planner always a planner eh, Pete?

Comment by DH

Actually I prefer once a human, always a human. You should try it some time David.

Comment by Pete

the video reminds me of a certain creative duo at hhcl. i think you fucking know who campbell. no idea what bollocks youre spouting on this post but the video is class.

Comment by andy@cynic

Rob, you’ve raised vaguebooking to the level of an art form.

Comment by Ian Gee

thats not vaguebooking. its campbellbollocks.

Comment by andy@cynic

How come it wouldn’t matter if Ian or Andy was right, I sound a complete dick.

Comment by Rob

Don’t answer that, I know what you’ll say. Gits.

Comment by Rob

I love this post, Rob. Thanks. It’s really pertinent to me at present for several reasons, so it pretty much made my day, and all before 9am!

It then made it some more with a random video about unflushed turds. Am I the only one that wonders, “How did nobody delete that video and WHY did you upload it?” Brilliant.

Also, I owe you an email.

Comment by curlydena

I’m shocked, but happy.

As for the video, I have no idea why they did it but I’m so glad they did.

Comment by Rob

You are such a sentimentalist Robert. That is not meant as a criticism, just an observation. It is also one of the many reasons I like you so much. I hope all is well with you.

Comment by Lee Hill

Can’t agree/feel more of this! the post are truly sentimental, while the comments are…well, let’s say interesting as it always.

Always have fun to read your post, Rob!

Comment by Coka Xiao

Hello Coka, lovely for you to come on here … I’m sure it was an accident, but I appreciated it.

Comment by Rob

Brilliant… this made my day, I can now forget about the petty shit and focus on what’s important again…

Thanks Rob

Comment by privatesale

That was a really nice vid… something I can relate to

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