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2016: Holiday #1
February 5, 2016, 6:15 am
Filed under: Comment, Daddyhood, Family, Fatherhood, Holiday, Otis, Parents

So today is the last day of work for a week before the Chinese New Year holiday.

I know … I know … I’ve just come back from my Christmas holiday, but this has been going on for 6 years so I don’t know why you’re surprised.

Last year, Chinese New Year was the start of a horrible time.

Mum was rushed into hospital and I flew back to be with her.

She recovered – and even thrived – but 10 days later, when she had her heart operation, it all went terribly wrong.

I’ve written a lot about that so I won’t say anymore for now, but this holiday will be different and I am sure my Mum would be happy about that.

Family is very important.

Sometimes we take them for granted.

We don’t mean to, but pressure and expectation occasionally distracts us from what’s really important and that’s why holidays are so important, because you don’t just get to let go of the distractions, you get to spend uninterrupted time with the people who make you feel fulfilled.

I’m not going to lie … holidays are very different now I have a son, but they are still magical, just in a different way.

When we were in Sydney a few weeks ago, one of the things we did was take Otis to the beach … Balmoral Beach to be precise.

Watching him play in the sand and the sea for the first time in his life was very special for me.

Seeing the joy on his face as he engaged with nature with his Mum and Dad was something that affected me deeply.

China was never going to be our home forever, but being able to easily compare against another way of living – albeit in the bubble of a holiday – certainly brought home what we now view as important.

That doesn’t mean things are going to change immediately – the fact is I still love my job, my life and China – but it does mean the things we want to explore and experiment with in the future have to fit in with certain environmental requirements that we never previously viewed as important. What’s even more amazing is that I no longer see this as a restriction of opportunity, but a sign my life has grown in ways I never previously could imagine.

That would make my parents happy which means that makes me doubly happy.

So while it is true that I am going to have another holiday just weeks after my previous one, it is no longer about me being a work shy, lazy bastard, it’s about spending time with the most important people in my life and even you couldn’t begrudge me that.

OK, you can, but I’m choosing to ignore you.

See you on the 15th.

Happy ‘year of the monkey’.

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Here we go again. New year, new chance for you to insult the working world with all your holidays.

Comment by DH

If it’s any consolation, I’m going to be working in our Tokyo office for 3 days. Does that make it better?

Comment by Rob

Staying in a luxury hotel and chilling in Tokyo. Yeah, really suffering.

Comment by DH

I just feel sorry for Jill and Otis.

Comment by DH

do. not. fucking. come. to. america.

Comment by andy@cynic

that includes leaving commieland to live here. that fucking especially means that. jill and the kid are welcome but you stay as far afuckingway as possible. just thinking of you makes me lose money.

Comment by andy@cynic

Be careful what you don’t wish for. Ha.

Comment by Rob

and fuck you for your cute family pics trying to look like youre a decent fuck. youre not, youre a holiday blagging planner who lucked in with your wife and kid because you did a deal with the devil in a past fucking life. year of the monkey? year of the cheeky monkey more fucking like.

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Comment by DH

If it’s year of the cheeky monkey, doesn’t that mean this is going to be my year? Brilliant. Thank you.

Comment by Rob

What’s a holiday?

Comment by John

Isn’t your life one big one?

Comment by DH

If it is, then I wouldn’t wish a holiday on anyone.

Comment by John

People may not realise it, but you are announcing many big things in this post. All good and all showing how much you love your family. Your parents would be as happy to hear you say this as they would be proud.
It almost makes me forgive you for your latest “free” holiday.

Comment by George

Thanks mate … it was quite a revelation for me. Of course, having a child always changes certain things – physically, mentally and aspirationally – but that trip to Sydney really impacted me in terms of the future plans. At least from a family perspective … so we’ll see what happens.

Comment by Rob

Is this your quit letter? Dan is going to be ecstatic.

Comment by Billy Whizz

Not yet Billy. Dan has to still put up with his ‘greatest mistake’ for a while longer. Unless he comes to his senses.

Comment by Rob

Your family is gorgeous. Come back and live in SF, it would be so lovely to have you near us.

Comment by Mary Bryant

If you can get rid of all the American’s, I would almost guarantee a ‘yes’ to your request. If you can’t, I’m not so sure. Sorry.

Comment by Rob

thats a fucking lucky escape mary.

Comment by andy@cynic

This is a very warming post to read on a cold Thursday evening. Enjoy your holiday Robert. My best wishes to your family.

Comment by Lee Hill

Really annoyed that with family and stuff I can’t have a go at you for holidays anymore. Still, there’s plenty of other ammunition I suppose

Comment by northern

I have no issue abusing your vacation excess.
Another day. Another holiday.

Comment by Bazza

Xin nian kuai le!

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