The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]

Just When You Thought It Was Safe …
June 19, 2017, 6:15 am
Filed under: A Bit Of Inspiration, Attitude & Aptitude, Family, Fatherhood, Otis

So I’m back.

I know … I know … the thought horrifies you. If it’s any consolation, it sort-of horrifies me too.

A huge amount has happened in the month or so I’ve been in LA, but the most important thing is we have settled.

To be honest, it’s been quite quick.

While Jill and I have done this a few times – as has the cat, Rosie – for Otis, it’s been a big change and the kid has handled it brilliantly.

Sure he’s missed his friends, toys and beloved Yaya … but he’s been awesome and I couldn’t be prouder.

I am a massive believer that one of the key criteria for success – or survival – is the ability to adapt to changing times.

That doesn’t mean you have to change your standards or your interests or even what you love, it’s just that you have to embrace the new rather than desperately hold on to the past.

That might sound hypocritical coming from me – a bonafide sentimentalist – but the reality is, my willingness to go where things excite me has enabled me to have the experiences I’ve had and hope still to have … so seeing my son be so positive about such a dramatic change of environment makes me feel he is already setting himself up for a life of adventure.

OK … OK … so maybe I’m overthinking all this, especially as Otis didn’t really have many options available to him once his parents decided to move to LA … but seeing him reach out to kids his age in a bid to bond and form friendships is wonderful to see.

Of course I feel a tinge of sadness witnessing it because I know part of his behaviour is because he feels a sense of isolation and I did that to him and I hate that I did that to him … but watching him adapt to his situation on his own accord is brilliant, especially when so many agencies are still trying to act like it’s the 1980’s.

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your sun is already more of a man than youll ever fucking be.
glad the little guy is kicking fucking goals already.

Comment by andy@cynic

More than his dad will.

Comment by DH

I wish I could disagree with you, but no … you’re right.

Comment by Rob

Underneath it all you’re quite a good dad.

Comment by DH

I’m not. Otis is just so brilliant you actively want to raise your game for him.

Comment by Rob

you better be thanking jill for that every fucking day campbell.

Comment by andy@cynic

Don’t be hard on yourself, it sound like Otis is doing very well. I fully expect you to inform us that he is inundated with friends within a few weeks.

Comment by Lee Hill

Have you noticed that the only people commenting are the ones east of LA. The little snowflakes need their sleep.

Comment by DH

Well, I’m up … I just don’t want to look at the internet until at least 8am, so I can be prepared to be smacked down before the day has started.

Comment by Rob

He already has one friend – Jack – he saw him at the park yesterday after a couple of weeks away and he was so happy. They then caused mayhem, egging each other on and laugh/screaming. It was utterly awesome to see.

Comment by Rob

jack and otis sounds like the names of a hipster cop duo tv show fighting crime with their wit rather than their guns. well, you are in fucking hollywood.

Comment by andy@cynic

It is also about a culture (or leadership) that encourages that type of behavior. For the purpose of analogy (as I don’t know you), your son is the agent of change, but you as a parent must have had created conditions for him to be this way. The same applies to organizations or the agencies (that haven’t changed since 1980’s).
It’s interesting how many companies today what to create ‘Google’ type of culture to foster that change…but, that’s not something you can fake by offering free lunches, yoga classes or whatsoever.
Using your analogy, it’s never about what we (parents) say or claim, it is the little invisible things that we are not even aware of that make children be this way.

Comment by Jelena Veselinovic

You mean Jill created the conditions. Rob is still living in 1985 with his queen tees and shit jeans.

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Comment by Jelena Veselinovic

I don’t think you should feel bad about anything Rob, Otis is a little star and you guys had a lot to do with that.

Comment by Pete

Thank god your first post back was about Otis or my week would be destroyed.

Comment by Bazza

Until shown otherwise, I’m happy to assume that your new bosses are smart enough to keep you under wraps while you acclimatise. So, do your colleagues know you’ve referred to them as “gang members, prostitutes and police officers”?

Comment by John

Good call.

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