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Home Is Where My Mum Is …
February 3, 2015, 6:30 am
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So in the very near future, I’m coming back to England.

The good news [for England] is that it’s not permanently, but it is for at least a month … which is longer than I’ve lived there since 1995.

The bad news is why I’m coming back.

As I mentioned a few weeks ago, my wonderful, brilliant, fantastic Mum is having an operation.

A big operation.

Even though the DR’s have assured me that the risk is small, I’m still obviously concerned.

Apart from the fact she’s my Mum – my beloved, precious Mum – I don’t want her to feel worried, vulnerable or frail and I know they’ll all be things she’ll feel and I hate that I can’t change that.

So I’m coming home to look after her. Hold her hand. Tell her how much I love her. Introduce her to her grandson.

It’s times like this that I question some of the decisions I have made in my life.

Should I have ever left England?

Should I have ever left Nottingham?

To be honest, these are questions that have nagged away at me from before I left the country so it’s not like it’s something new plus the fact is I did go so it’s a nonsensical discussion and yet my Mum – despite her predicament – still has the grace to say she’s proud of what I’ve done and the decisions I’ve made.

It’s a reminder of what the definition of unconditional love really is and I feel incredibly lucky to have her – and my Dad – as my parents.

So if you could give my Mum a little bit of thought today, I would be grateful.

Not because of her operation but because she is a wonderful, special person and this World needs as many of those in it as we can get.

Thank you.

Love you Mum.


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Your mum will be fine. If she is OK after all the shit you’ve put her through she can handle an operation with ease. Still sending her my best wishes though.

Comment by DH

That is a very good point, gratefully received.

Comment by Rob

I think you’ve made a lot of decisions that need thinking about Rob. I could give you 1000 examples off the top of my head now.

Comment by DH

I would love to ask you to name them, but I’m worried you could so let’s just move on …

Comment by Rob

fuck me campbell, you drop this on us very fucking quickly. were still trying to come to terms youre back writing this shit then you tell us your mums op is so big she needs you back in blighty for a month. have you considered she would get better faster if you were there for only a few fucking days. sending her love for a bunch of fucking reasons. sending england some to. if they thought cameron was bad theyre in for a big fucking wake up call.

Comment by andy@cynic

I was about to respond to your insult then I saw you spelt “there” … “theyre” so I will just sit back in the knowledge that if you can’t even spell a simple word like that, your opinion has no validity. Or something.

Comment by Rob

You are a very good son and I know your mother is proud of you. Admittedly she does not know everything about you, but what she does know she is rightfully proud of. We are sending her love and best wishes for the reasons you state in your post. Not because of her impending hospital visit but because she is a fabulous human being. Do you know the exact dates you will be in the UK as I will be there in late Feb and it would be great to see you if it is convenient for you both.

Comment by George

thats all mrs c needs, 2 fucking planners in the same room.

Comment by andy@cynic

I’m emigrating.

Comment by John

Not sure of the exact dates – we’re waiting for them – but it should be relatively soon so I’ll let you know as soon as I find out. I won’t tell John though … that way I can surprise him and he won’t be able to say he’s washing his hair or something.

Comment by Rob

i wont be in the uk and if i was, id be cancelling my fucking tickets right now.

Comment by andy@cynic

Best wishes Mrs C.

Comment by John

My best wishes to your mother. If there is anything I can do, please just let me know.

Comment by Lee Hill

Thanks Lee, I don’t think there is anything but we both know that if I think of something, I won’t be backwards in coming forward.

Comment by Rob

free fucking business class tickets wont make a fucking jot of difference to your mums health campbell so dont you even try it. if anything it might make things worse if its a business class ticket to see you in fucking commieland.

Comment by andy@cynic

My best wishes to her. I am sure the joy and love from Otis will bring her a speedy recovery!

Comment by Nicole Bee

Nicole Bee … what the hell are you doing commenting on here? Don’t you know that is the worst thing that can happen for your career – only topped by sitting next to me at work – but given you have done that and survived, I am assuming you don’t care. But thank you for the lovely words, you’re a sweetheart.

Comment by Rob

Hello Nicole. Feeling lonely? I don’t usually talk to ladies who know Rob but I’ll make an exception for you.

Comment by Billy Whizz

good luck to you and your mum, Rob. You might have the harder job of the two, since waiting for something to happen is yards harder than being part of it…

Comment by judyt54

Not sure if I have the harder part of the deal, but I know what you’re saying. Thanks for the nice thoughts.

Comment by Rob

Showing her her new grandson will be the best medicine of all.

Comment by Ian Gee

Oh yes. He was born at the perfect time.

Comment by Rob

Best wishes Mrs C and a speedy recovery!

Comment by niko

Hi Rob. First of all, hope your mom gets better asap. Saw your post coming through on LinkedIn. Second, I know how you feel, as I have been in the same boat as you since 2004. Currently, I also came back due to circumstances. After 1 month I feel like the past 10 years have not happened, but that’s another story. Since I only have 1 parent and who is of age, the best thing that can happen is to spend as much time with them. So even if you come back for a month or longer, those moments you will create count. Of course your parents are proud of you. But don’t forget our families and “home” friends do not understand your 2nd life. So just focus on the NOW and create moments with your grandson so he can create memories with your grandparents. I think as expats or simply globetrotters its a difficult lifestyle where you have to give up a part of your former life. I wish your mom all the best and hope you enjoy every moment.

Comment by whathaha

i understand his second life. he gets paid a fucking fortune. always is on holiday and does absolutely fuck all.

Comment by andy@cynic

and i know campbell is old but even he isnt a fucking grandfather yet. but i like where youre going with your insult so carry on.

Comment by andy@cynic

Andrew. Behave.

Comment by George

still spoiling my fucking fun.

Comment by andy@cynic

George was nice before he got rich.

Comment by DH

Give my love to your mum. She’s smashing.

Comment by Marcus

Best wishes to you and your Mum

Comment by Northern

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