The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]


A Weekend Of Life …
November 15, 2010, 5:15 am
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So after a weekend where I “enjoyed” the worst work travel experience I’ve ever had [thanks for that BA, you made an impression] I came home to find two very important and dear people in my life had given birth to two – soon to be very important – children on exactly the same day.

This made me happy.

Very happy.

Not just because having a healthy baby is a thing to celebrate, but because both new Mum’s are wonderful, caring, clever people [and the blokes who played a part in all of this aren’t bad either] and their actions have just made a positive contribution to a happier society.

Unfortunately, given both of them live in other countries, I don’t when I will be able to be introduced to the little ones – I’m still waiting for an intro to Mr Environments bundle of fun – but I hope it’s soon because not only do I want to come face to face with the little sods, but I want to see my friends faces and talk to them about how they feel and how they’ve changed.

NP has been very gracious in humouring me on this topic ever since he delightful son was born, but with Tony [Environment Boy], Juanita & Charlie [the new Mum’s], they are friends I’ve known [and actually met, ha] for a very long time and as such, I have more of an understanding of who they are or who they were so can judge the impact more clearly.

I love these 3 friends very much …

In all cases, their friendship, advice, commitment, compassion and companionship have gone way beyond the call of duty – especially Charlie and Tony, who without their help, I may easily have drowned under a sea of some hard, scary & tough periods I had in my life – so I hope they know how much they meant to me, even if truth be known, they’ll never really grasp how much they mean to me.

I know it’s heavily influenced by the age of my friends, however I still find it amazing that 3 of the 5 most important friends in my life have all had healthy children this year – which means regardless of what else has happened in this past 12 months, or what is still to happen in the remaining 6 or 7 weeks – 2010 can go down as a stellar year and that is definitely worth feeling positive about.

I must admit, I do wish I had been able to be there when they had their kids.

To support them before and to celebrate with them after.

OK, so I kinda did, but this is one of those times where ‘virtual’ doesn’t really do it justice.

Yes I know they had oodles of support from people – people who, in the scheme of things, were/are more important and necessary than me – but the fact is, every single thing that’s ever happened to me that mattered over the past 10-15 years has in some way, involved or revolved around them and I just feel I’ve let them down because at possibly the most significant point in their life, I wasn’t there to share.

Maybe I’m being a selfish prick.

Maybe I feel this way because it’s more evidence I’m getting older and that my view of what real friendship is, is as rose-tinted as the one’s featured in the show ‘The Wonder Years’ [a show I cried at when I heard how life turned out for the characters in the final minutes of the final episode] but I hope not, because while I do wish they were all just down the road so we could be more actively involved in eachothers lives [one of the sacrifices of moving so much, though to be fair, I met all these 3 because I moved so much] the real reason for my melancholy is because I’d love to be there to see, share and add to the excitement.

Anyway that’s me being a sentimental old fart again, so to my dearest Charlie & Juanita [though it should be the other way round because I think – thanks to some questionable time difference calculations – Juanita had her baby first] I want to say a huge congrats [and the hubbies] and let you know I am very happy, proud and excited for you all.


33 Comments

fuck me charlies a mum. that is fucking lovely. of course you dont fucking say whether its a boy or a girl or another julia fucking roberts but i know youll be talking to her so tell her well done from the only man she ever really loved.

and the wonder years was like a 90 hour hal riney ad. thats not necessarily a bad thing but i wouldnt want to be producing that sort of shit now. though youd watch it wouldnt you mr fucking sentimental.

isnt “kevin” a professional pervert nowadays? didnt he get accused of touching up some actress? and winnie is some maths genius. i know because i read it in an article when she posed in maxim. shes hot but not as hot as she should of turned out. nature can be such a fucking bitch. and the nerdy fuck? paul? isnt he marilyn manson or some bollocks? why the fuck do i know this shit.

you might not be with them campbell and you might be more sentimental than a fucking parent waving goodbye to their kids as they go off to college and have the times of their fucking lives but youre a fucking sweetheart to your friends so dont be too fucking hard on yourself, let me do that for you.

so well done to charlie and van oosten. one of them i knew would be good the other i never thought had it in him. and juanita sounds hot so well done to her as well.

you jetlagged campbell or still waiting for your bag to turn up?

Comment by andy@cynic

Yes I’m jetlagged … but the real reason I’m up at this time is because my fucking cat won’t let me sleep. I’d like to pretend it’s because she’s missed me, but I know that’s not the case – she’s been ill and is now making up for all the time she’s been sleeping.

And yes, the Wonder Years is quite Hal Rineyish – hadn’t thought of it that way – but it touched a nerve for me, even though in many ways, the only thing I had in common with the show was that my best friend was called Paul.

And Charlie had a little girl, the very beautiful Sofia … whereas Tony had a little boy called Will which looks EXACTLY like him [which is good news for when he’s older and hanging out with the ladies] … and Juanita had Christian – who at this moment looks nothing like either of them, though if I said that to her, I’m sure she’d kick me in the nuts and then spend 3 hours pointing out all the similarities to her and Pat, ha.

Oh, and my suitcase got delivered yesterday. 12 hours after I got delivered, but it got here [as did all my DVD’s] and that is all that matters. Saying that, I am still phoneless and given the Chinese mobile phone market is rather different to the rest of the World, I will have to wait till I leave the country again to get something “normal”, which means I will have to walk around with something very low-tech until then which is quite liberating in a “people-stop-stare-and-point” kind of a way.

Comment by Rob

fuck me, you and a fictional fucking show share the name of a best friend and you think its a fucking doco of your life. how the fuck did you get me to throw my fucking lot with you.

the thought of you walking around shanghai with a phone circa 1985 is possibly the fucking best image ive had in my head since the megan/olivia sandwich so take a snap campbell to commemorate the moment you didnt have the latest bit of fucking technical shite.

funny how you can be such a sentimental cock and yet show no sentimentality at fucking all where gizmos are concerned. thats called schizo where i come from.

Comment by andy@cynic

I don’t think you’re being selfish at all wanting to be with your friends Rob, I think it’s a really nice way to be.

Congratulations to all of the new parents, I hope they know the tsunami of presents they’re about to be hit with from you.

Comment by Pete

creep. hes not your fucking boss anymore pete, you do fucking realise that dont you?

Comment by andy@cynic

i take it im your most important fucking friend of the 5.

me.
paul.
charlie.
tony.
juanita.

guess jill doesnt count because shes legally required to be nice to you. thats what i used to fucking think too campbell.

Comment by andy@cynic

I must be number 6.

Comment by Billy Whizz

Yeah Billy, you’re number 6 … but it’s on a totally different list.

Comment by Rob

Isn’t a “descending order” list of friends a bit 12 year old?

Eitherway, you’re clairvoyance is genius because that is an exact replication of the order I regard my best friends, which is handy as the person at the top is the one I’ll be calling upon to pay all my bills and lend me all their cash.

Comment by Rob

youve done a fucking good job of that all ready campbell.

Comment by andy@cynic

Yes I have. Yes I have.

Comment by Rob

wanker.

Comment by andy@cynic

You’re just gutted they didn’t call the kids Robert and Roberta.

Comment by Billy Whizz

poor campbell, last one to know rob or roberta is code for fucking ugly.

Comment by andy@cynic

Doesn’t he have a mirror in his house?

Comment by Billy Whizz

would you if you looked like that?

Comment by andy@cynic

I am here you know …

Comment by Rob

Good call.

Comment by Billy Whizz

congrats to all the new parentals in the hizouse!!

i think i understand the crux of what you’re saying in this post, rob. and i have to say that i’m super-duper grateful that i could be there for my sister when she had her bub, for all the reasons you speak of. and at the moment, i can totally empathise with the slightly maddening feeling of being so far away from said bundle of joy and having to do the support-by-proxy thing.

but, i’m sure you’ll be able to give the most awesome support nonetheles – i mean you helped brian get out of homelessness and gave someone else’s son some hearing, so i’m sure you’ll do a shit-hot job of being there for these parents, who you know and love.

Comment by lauren

hes mother fucking teresa isnt he.

Comment by andy@cynic

By complete chance, I had the privilege of speaking with Charlie when she’d been a mum for three hours and she was amazed and besotted in equal measure. And Sofia has quite a pair of lungs on her.

Comment by John

trying to negotiate first date rights for when she turns 21 eh doddsy?

Comment by andy@cynic

hang on. how the fuck do you know charlie in the first place.

Comment by andy@cynic

I introduced them in a moment of madness. Doubt she’s forgiven me yet, ha!

Comment by Rob

I haven’t forgiven you for the resultant hangovers.

Comment by John

Did I force you to drink the booze?

Comment by Rob

Congratulations to the new parents, it’s wonderful news. I also wish to thank all who offered words of support in the last week, it really helped.

Comment by Bazza

good man baz. look after yourself or well do it for you.

Comment by andy@cynic

nice to see you on here baz – hugs to you and your folks, yo.

Comment by lauren

Good to have you here matey and do as Andy say’s, because you don’t want us to come and sort things out do you.

Take care my friend.

Comment by Rob

Change your meds.

Comment by Angus

I know, I’m scaring myself.

Comment by Rob

so thats 2 posts of sentimental fucking clap trap campbell. no more. get back to being a little bitch or you should look over your shoulder for the next 6 months.

Comment by andy@cynic




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