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So I recently came across this quote from Winston Churchill …
Of course, it’s a classic him.
Smart, political with a cheeky bastard cherry on the top.
When I showed it to a mate, he said I could learn from Churchill’s advice because when I don’t like someone, I’m not just likely to tell them to go to hell, I’ll offer to drive them there.
To be honest, I was a bit put-out by this.
I know I can be a bit of a bull in a China shop at times, but I don’t think I’m THAT bad. At least not these days.
Anyway, a few minutes later, the same friend sent me this …
… along with a note that said:
“This is why you don’t need tact”.
Even though you could argue this comment was even ruder, I found this response much more acceptable – and of course the reason for that is because he’d just reframed my “talent” [sarcasm] in a way that not only superseded my weakness [tact] but meant I didn’t have to put myself out to improve myself because what I could do, was better.
Sort-of.
Yes, I know that is a shit attitude to have – let alone admit – but we all do it.
Whether it’s reframing our lack of hair as a sign of raw masculinity or saying overweight people have a better sense of humour, it’s not just planners who have an ability to reframe things, so it’s worth remembering there will always be someone who can offer a valid counter argument so stop worrying about whether your views or ideas could alienate people and embrace what you believe because polarisation means you’ve said something that has caused people to think, which is way better than spouting stuff that no one thinks is worth even commenting on.
Which, now I come to think about it, is quite a good example of reframing right there.
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I hink your mate was being sarcastic.
Comment by John October 9, 2014 @ 6:16 amoh no he fucking wasnt.
Comment by andy@cynic October 9, 2014 @ 6:27 amthough campbell is living fucking proof you dont have to be witty to be sarcastic, you just need to be a bastard.
Comment by andy@cynic October 9, 2014 @ 6:29 amHas the letter “t” broken on your keyboard John?
Comment by DH October 9, 2014 @ 6:41 amyoure right campbell, youre a soft fucker these days. you used to be alright but now you make the archers look like the sex pistols. your only saving grace is youre not got as beige as auntie george, but theres still plenty of fucking time.
Comment by andy@cynic October 9, 2014 @ 6:32 amAt least it took George to have 3 kids to get to his shade of beige.
Comment by DH October 9, 2014 @ 6:42 amSo let me get this straight, we are using George as the definition of ‘nice’ and we’re saying ‘nice’ is a euphemism for bland and beige?
[I know it is, but I’m trying to reframe your insults into something positive, in-keeping with this posts theme]
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 8:03 amI’m hanging on to the fact that there is only one thing worse than being talked about, not being talked about.
Comment by George October 9, 2014 @ 8:49 amYou don’t need tact if you’ve won a Clio.
Comment by Jerry Seinfeld October 9, 2014 @ 6:33 amCorrect. You just need ego.
Comment by DH October 9, 2014 @ 6:38 amYou are the absolute opposite of that Churchill quote Rob. But you look just like him.
Comment by DH October 9, 2014 @ 6:43 amGold
Comment by Northern October 9, 2014 @ 4:54 pmDay 2 of posts and I already wish you were back on holiday. Good news is you will announce you’re having a 5 week China holiday in a few days.
Comment by Billy Whizz October 9, 2014 @ 6:51 amWell the kid is born in 8 weeks or so and we may be coming to the end of this blog … so rejoice while you can.
Emphasis on ‘may’ … be coming to the end, don’t get your hopes up too high yet Billy.
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 8:04 amYou have carried on from where you started yesterday. Good news. Though it took until the penultimate paragraph before I was sure of that.
Comment by Lee Hill October 9, 2014 @ 7:03 amjust for the record campbell, i comment and youve never fucking said something thats made me think. except why the fuck did go into business with you. my kind, charitable heart puts me into all sorts of fucking shit.
Comment by andy@cynic October 9, 2014 @ 7:15 amI only come here because the DA said it would stop me reoffending. He was wrong, it makes me want to kill.
Comment by Billy Whizz October 9, 2014 @ 7:42 amI’m doing a science experiment.
Comment by DH October 9, 2014 @ 7:45 amBoredom. Except is it makes me more bored.
Comment by Bazza October 9, 2014 @ 7:49 am(Just joking Rob)
so youve climbed out from under your fucking rock have you. how many iPhones did campbell ask for? how many did you give him? when the fuck do i get a bastard freebie?
Comment by andy@cynic October 9, 2014 @ 7:51 am20.
Comment by Bazza October 9, 2014 @ 7:54 am0.
Unlikely.
wanker.
Comment by andy@cynic October 9, 2014 @ 7:58 amI didn’t get a thing from tight-ass Baz. But I bought one … the 128gb one … but the 6 is too big for my dwarf hands, so god knows who would bother with the 6+.
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 8:05 amI only come here to clear my brain of drivel.
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 8:06 amJust 8 weeks, blimey .Plenty of time to squeeze in another 5 holidays.
Comment by Northern October 9, 2014 @ 5:00 pmHope your better half is okay .
Cheeky sod.
Jill is good but she wasn’t when I announced I was buggering off for almost 3 weeks without her. Ha.
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 5:09 pmOuch.
Comment by Northern October 9, 2014 @ 6:40 pmAnd only joking – but I thought you might have re-framed the holiday observation as planning not as a desk job
God you’re good.
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 9:09 pmI remember churchill saying his off the cuff remarks were planned days in advance.
Comment by Northern October 9, 2014 @ 6:41 pmWhich is sort of like me with propositions, I hate writing the damned things, so collect all sorts of stuff so I look I just thought of stuff I’ve actually thieved from something or other
Me too. I have hundreds of thoughts/ideas/expressions that I’ve captured over the years that I always revisit … for inspiration, if nothing else.
It’s not cheating, it’s efficiency. (Reframed)
Comment by Rob October 9, 2014 @ 9:10 pm