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Happy Birthday Mama …
November 2, 2018, 6:15 am
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So tomorrow would be Mum’s 86th birthday.

Eighty six.

Given she only passed a few years ago, that shouldn’t shock me – but it does.

I’m not saying this just because I am terrible at maths, I’m saying it because my Mum never acted her age.

I don’t mean that in a ‘growing old disgracefully’ sort of way, but in her desire to be an active member of contemporary culture rather than a critic of it.

Sure, there were things that she didn’t necessarily like, but that didn’t see her putting up barriers, nor did it see her negatively judging the people who behaved a certain way.

Mum was fine if she didn’t understand something if she knew it meant something to someone because she saw it as a chance to learn, to feel present, to not be left behind by a world constantly in progress.

I’ve written this before, but Mum taught me to care about things other people care about.

It sounds easy, but it’s not.

It’s about having genuine interest in other people.

Not just the good stuff, but the things that move them and why.

It’s so much more than listening, it’s about curiosity and empathy.

The planning community love to talk about curiosity – and I’ve written about why that drives me nuts a few times – but the bit they forget is empathy.

Empathy reveals the why behind the what.

Empathy breathes air into the context of every actions.

Empathy opens doors that might otherwise remain closed.

It’s the difference between resonance and relevance … which means you don’t have to pretend you’re like someone to connect to someone.

It’s why my Mum was such a special person and I wish she was here to wish a happy birthday.

Love you Mum.


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