Today would be my Mum’s 91st birthday.
The idea of her being 91 feels weird because that’s proper old, but I never saw her that way, even when she was in her 80’s.
Part of this is because she refused to make age an excuse for not being interested or invested in contemporary culture.
From music to comedy to film to food … she was actively invested in knowing more about what was going on, even if she didn’t understand or like it herself.
Her view was that the best way to have a full life was to have a curious mind … and that manifested in her caring deeply about what others cared about.
Not in an invasive or nosy way – she was absolutely not that sort of person – but in a desire to listen and learn.
Learning was very important to her.
Not for any other reason other than she found it hugely enjoyable.
It’s why over the years she did everything from painting classes to pottery to creative writing to learning Russian.
But she never made a big deal out of it.
This was for her and kept to her.
A way to feel she is always growing, regardless the age she was.
But while everyone who knew her saw her as a compassionate, caring, curious, considerate, kind and humble Italian lady … she was also strong.
Strong with her values.
Strong with her principals.
Strong with staying committed to what she found important.
A quiet activist … someone who spoke loudly and clearly through her actions rather than words. She was a perfect match for my Dad, given he was a human rights barrister whose actions were literally his words.
Obviously I miss them both. A lot.
But the older I get, the more I see how much they taught me.
Sometimes deliberately … sometimes by osmosis.
And while the way I do stuff is a pale imitation of the way they did stuff, I am so grateful to them for giving me love, support, encouragement and inspiration.
I hope they knew it.
I wish I could tell them again.
Happy 91st Mum.
I love you.
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