The Musings Of An Opinionated Sod [Help Me Grow!]

Uncertainty Is Certain …
August 5, 2013, 6:10 am
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I should warn you the posts this week are weird.

Or should I say, even weirder than usual.

Some – like today’s – are about how people can have totally different interpretations of what is compassionate. Others, like Tuesday’s, are about the magic of camaraderie. On Wednesday I write about the wonder and importance of love & friendship and on Thursday, I go into full on angst-and-hate mode.

Friday? That’s just mental. Even for me.

Now while all these post obviously represent things I am – or have been – going through, they shouldn’t be read as me going through some sort of personal crisis.

I’m not.

Far from it.

Everything is genuinely good at home and at work.

In fact, if anything, they represent I am alive.

What am I talking about?

Well as much as the emotional rollercoaster of life can be draining, the fact is, these highs and lows are what help us learn, explore and feel connected to life.

Sure, sometimes we’d rather not have certain experiences, but over time, even those often help us get a bigger and better perspective on life.

Our life.

Anyway, all I am saying is everything is OK so don’t read too much into any of these posts – they’re simply the ramblings of an overly sentimental and judgmental bloke from Nottingham and I can assure you, if you think it’s about you, you’re almost certainly wrong.

Or maybe you’re not. Ha.

OK, so let’s begin …

Me Not We

I had originally written a different post for today.

Then circumstances changed and I wrote an entirely different version of it.

Full of bitterness and resentment.

Anger even.

And I desperately wanted to post it because even though the parties it was about would never see it, it was more to do with cleansing my soul.

But I decided against it.

It’s in my drafts folder and will never be published.

Because it will serve no purpose.

It won’t change a thing.

It certainly won’t let me go back in time.

And change the circumstances to change the circumstances.

So the purpose of this post is nothing more than a reminder to myself that beauty isn’t the only thing that’s in the eye of the beholder, so is what is viewed as fair.


So since I wrote this, stuff has been sorted out.

Things have been discussed, apologies – from both sides – have been issued and the flood gates that were closed when all this shit started, have been opened and all the good stuff has begun to flow again.

I cannot tell you how happy I am about this.

Believe it or not, I’m not that keen on confrontation but more than that, at my age I can’t afford to lose the few people who put up with me, so as much as this post was supposed to be my reminder that people have different definitions of ‘what is fair’, it actually is a reminder to me that dealing with the issue head on – rather than fuming over it – is much more productive for a healthy, beautiful friendship and inner peace.

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The first line of this post is the scariest thing I’ve read in a long time.

Comment by DH

Yes, to be honest, I agree with you … especially as I know what the rest of the rubbish I’m writing about is about.

Comment by Rob

My week has just got worse and it hasn’t even started. Thanks a lot Rob.

Comment by DH

What do you mean “fuming about it?” For as long as I’ve known you you’ve always taken things head on. Having you fume about things rather than immediately go out seeking vengeance is all any of us who had to work with you wanted.

Comment by DH

Poor Jill, colleagues, friends, first class airline hostess, technology makers, estate agents, queen memorabilia sellers, birkenstock designers & China.

Comment by DH

Oh I’m much better now. All the ranting is in my head first … I don’t let it just spout out my mouth like a machine gun. Except on here of course.

Comment by Rob

Is it just me or does anyone else think this post sounds like an 1980, drugged up, Elton John catfight?.

Comment by Billy Whizz

Also known as Rob Campbell circa 2013.

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Comment by Rob

Sounds like a classic week of Shanghai Snore to me.

Comment by John

A week to catch up on sleep then Rob. Though I’ll be awake for Friday. If you describe a post you’ve written as mad, then that is something I can not miss.

Comment by Bazza

I’m glad your situation is all sorted, disagreements with people who matter are always the worst. The issue you bring up regarding people perception of exactly the same situation has always fascinated me. In my experience, it is the accumulation of almost every aspect of people’s upbringing and sense of worth or guilt. Naturally I forget this when I find myself in similar circumstances, but I feel they shine a light into your best and worst traits.

Comment by Pete

I’m settling down for an interesting week Rob.

Comment by George

Are you sitting comfortably, you may have a long wait?

Comment by John

Reblogged this on balkrishkumarchaudhary.

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